Rolequeer theory and related discourses are hosted in many different venues. This is a single reference to some of the more noteworthy or influential pieces of that widespread conversation. To browse material hosted on this website, see this alphabetical list of wiki pages.
Primary source material¶
These posts are rolequeer primary sources, such as its original articulation and continued exposition by constructive participants.
- Dominants play to win. Submissives play to lose. Rolequeers play to quit the game.
- Your Kinks Are Not “BDSM” (discussion)
- Why Rolequeer is so important (cache copy)
- Rolequeerness is not about sex it’s about power (cache copy)
- How to have hot, kinky sex with other Submissives without inviting a Dom
- Why I don’t call myself ‘dominant’ anymore
- Submission is where the magic happens 2
- I think most people don’t like having power
- Sensation, story and felt sense, rolequeer and BDSM do not mix
- Dissecting “A Brief, Mostly Sane Definition of Rolequeerness,” which is not actually a definition of rolequeerness
- Rolequeer’s first zine: A first exploration into why I like kink but NOT bdsm (printable copy)
- Thinking Rolequeer: Stepping outside the charmed circle
- Rolequeer is not about shame
- Rolequeers want to abolish dominants - and cops
- Some common mistakes about rolequeer vs. bdsm
Relevant posts about Consent:
- What’s the difference between choice, permission, and consent as a felt sense?
- “BDSM” is kinky sex for rape apologists”
- You can take it back: Consent as a felt sense
- I want submissives to take more care of themselves
- Dominants are Rapists (cache copy)
- Domism: Role Essentialism and Sexism Intersectionality in the BDSM Scene
- More on Dominants are Rapists: if consent is not enough, what else do we need? (cache copy)
- This one’s for the invisible girl.
- BDSM talks the talk when it comes to consent, but is disastrous when it comes to walking the walk.
- BDSM as Parody
- National BDSM organization’s own survey admits consent crisis in BDSM Scene (cache copy)
- Submissive people don’t need dominants. Period. (cache copy)
- Never, ever assume you need permission from a dominant person to speak to a submissive person. (cache copy)
- The BDSM Scene is an abusive social institution. Let their world burn (they’re doing it already) (cache copy)
- Kink can be... (why the bdsm binary is bullshit)
- Your kinks are not bdsm
- Venn diagrams on bdsm and abuse
- You might be a rapist if it never occurs to you that rape is something you’re capable of
- focusing on becoming better at communicating boundaries is the BDSM definition of ‘make sure he rapes the other sub’
Blogosphere and social media¶
Relevant tags on social media websites:
- Rolequeer
- Submissives without dominants
- Submissive solidarity
- kink critical
- relationship anarchy
- anarchist sex
- Dominants are rapists
- Consent-As-Felt/Consent as a Felt Sense
Noteworthy blogs¶
Blogs who say stuff about rolequeer:
- bandanablog.wordpress.com (originator blog, most posts are relevant)
- malesubmissionart.com (originator blog, most posts are relevant)
- maybemaimed.com/tag/rolequeer (originator tagspace, all listed posts are relevant)
- rolequeer.tumblr.com (curated channel)
