Valuing your self, taking proper notice of your qualities, and desiring what is good for yourself.

a.k.a. self-respect?

Complementary virtues

Contrasting vices


Virtues possibly in tension

How to acquire or strengthen it


Notes and links

  • This can take the form of being virtuous and knowing that you’re virtuous, and of depending on your own evaluation of your worthiness rather than on the evaluations of others. Related perhaps to the “megalopsychia” (great-souledness) of Aristotle.
  • Self-compassion research lab
  • Brené Brown uses “Wholehearted” to describe people with resilience to shame, “worthiness” (her “The Gifts of Imperfection” gives 10 guideposts that represent “work to cultivate” in this area).
  • Skills You Need: Boost Self-Compassion & Esteem

Mentioned elsewhere


Inspirational quotes

  • “Character — the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life — is the source from which self-respect springs.” / “To have that sense of one’s intrinsic worth which constitutes self-respect is potentially to have everything: the ability to discriminate, to love and to remain indifferent. To lack it is to be locked within oneself, paradoxically incapable of either love or indifference. If we do not respect ourselves, we are on the one hand forced to despise those who have so few resources as to consort with us, so little perception as to remain blind to our fatal weaknesses. On the other, we are pecularily in thrall to everyone we see, curiously determined to live out – since our self-image is untenable – their false notions of us…” ―Joan Didion