a.k.a. affability, congeniality, being easygoing
Some people want to be agreeable and just don’t have a good idea what kind of vibe they’re putting out (e.g. the awkward). Other people developed disagreeableness as a strategy for keeping frightening people at bay (e.g. the gruff). And others are disagreeable as a side effect of other things they’re pursuing (e.g. the asshole). With such variety (and this is just off the top of my head), I’m guessing there will probably also be a variety of strategies to pursue in the course of becoming more agreeable. It may require a lot of work just to identify what’s causing your deficits in the first place before you start working on them.
Complementary virtues¶
- conversational competence
- friendliness
- niceness (seems to have more of an active component)
- tact
Contrasting vices¶
- awkwardness
- brusqueness
- churlishness
- contentious
- disagreeable
- discordance
- disputatious
- fawning (vice of excess)
- flattering (vice of excess)
- grouchiness
- gruffness
- being ill-natured
- obnoxiousness
- obsequious (vice of excess)
- querulousness
- being a shit-stirrer
- being snappy
- being surly
Virtues possibly in tension¶
How to acquire or strengthen it¶
TBD
Notes and links¶
So you aren’t particularly agreeable? Maybe you can use that to your advantage rather than looking on it as a weakness. Consider:
Mentioned elsewhere¶
TBD
Inspirational quotes¶
TBD
