a.k.a. communion, discussion

How to communicate well in on-line / text formats is an important and sometimes neglected skill, too. Ordinary conversational competence doesn’t necessarily translate well to e.g. chat rooms & email.

Complementary virtues¶

• amiability
• charm
• consideration
• persuasion
• respect for personal space
• rhetoric
• spontaneity
• tact
• understanding
• wit

Contrasting vices¶

• having nothing to say
• monopolizing the conversation
• not listening well

Virtues possibly in tension¶

TBD

How to acquire or strengthen it¶

TBD

Notes and links¶

• How to Have a Good Conversation (Celeste Headlee | TEDx). Summary: 1) don’t multitask/be present; 2) don’t pontificate, set aside your opinions and be prepared to learn; 3) use open-ended questions; 4) go with the flow; 5) don’t be reluctant to admit your ignorance (say “I don’t know”); 6) don’t equate your similar experience with the experience they’re recounting; 7) try not to repeat yourself; 8) don’t get bogged down in details; 9) LISTEN; 10) be brief.
• www.mindtools.com/pages/main/communication_skills.htm
• Messages: The Communication Skills Book
• www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/conversational-skills.html
• www.skillsyouneed.com/rhubarb/defensiveness-in-conversations.html
• www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/active-listening.html
• www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/verbal-communication.html
• LW: Conversation
• S.L. Gable, et al. “What do you do when things go right? The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2004) pp. 228-245

Mentioned elsewhere¶

TBD

Inspirational quotes¶

TBD